As Christians we always used to talk about unconditional love, divine love, so-called Agape love. God loved us SOoooo MUCH that he had himself incarnated and executed in a most ostentatious manner on our behalf so that he wouldn’t have to kill us, even while we were still his enemies.
I recently ran across this song, originally performed by the David Crowder Band, which we used to sing in church all the time. It was a big hit, especially for our kids (thanks to Hillsong Kids). Every move I make, I make in You.You make me move, Jesus.Every breath I take, I breathe in You.… Continue reading Every Move I Make
This month’s issue of the Human Givens journal has a cover article on religious trauma syndrome. Stevie Noah describes the Christian fundamentalist upbringing that left her with religious trauma syndrome and how human givens is providing a framework for moving on. In early 2009, I hit the lowest point in my life. I was suffering… Continue reading Religious Trauma Syndrome
“If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters–yes, even their own life–such a person cannot be my disciple.” ~ Luke 14:26 Someone recently asked me how many people among a person’s friends and family need to be gay before being gay becomes okay. This was… Continue reading How Much until Being Gay Is Okay?
I ran across this in one of the former-fundie Facebook support groups. This is a description for an actual book, called Pots, Pans, & Prophecies. Okay… Explain to me again how this is not dehumanizing, manipulative, and abusive? What if the pots and pans in your kitchen were alive, living beings, each with their own… Continue reading Pots, Pans, & Prophecies
Seen on social media: a meme quoting J. Mark Johns, pastor of Canvas Church (the one in Alachua, FL): “Don’t let a bad church experience stop you from going to church. We’ve never let a bad restaurant experience stop us from eating out. #tryagain” This is a hoary chestnut right out of the Evangelical gaslighting… Continue reading A Bad Church Experience
There’s a church near Worcester that I end up driving by frequently on the way to lunch. On the lawn outside sits a prominent sign in modern blues and greens: “Life Source.” The logo consists of a Latin cross, coupled with a symbol indicating three bars of Wifi available. Across the bottom is the church’s… Continue reading Spiritual Gaslighting on Display
It never ceases to amaze me how clueless and profoundly misguided are the comments of religious believers about their deeply held religious beliefs. I understand the forces at work and the processes that they go through in order to get to their desired conclusions. (That, in fact, is the core of the problem. They have… Continue reading Maintaining Contact with an Abusive God
A friend wrote to me (used with permission): “Evangelicals are so full of themselves. They think they’re the only people that are really happy.” Yes. This is exactly what I remember from my years as an evangelical. When they encounter others who are happy, this disconfirms their belief that you have to “have Jesus in… Continue reading How Fundies Isolate Themselves from Others
In the movie Good Will Hunting, there’s this one scene where Sean Maguire (Robin Williams) says to Will Hunting (Matt Damon), “It’s not your fault.” If you haven’t seen the film, Will was abused as a kid. As children, we internalized the bad things that happen to us at the hands of our caregivers. When… Continue reading It’s Not Your Fault